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Quote: from YellowDuckie at 3:59 pm on Aug. 18, 2008

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Quote: from miimii at 3:54 pm on Aug. 18, 2008

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You shouldn't give it up for adoption. It's a very irresponsible thing to do, and very hard too.  
Abortion isn't easy either, but it's not irresponsible. You might regret it, but it's most likely the best thing you can do for the baby.

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The whole act of sex while underage is irresponsible. I don't understand how adoption fits in under that category. I can see how abortion does since there are people who use it as birth control. Giving the child a second chance to live a good healthy life is the best thing she can do. That's assuming she's willing to go through pregnancy and sacrifice her body for the child.

I don't know. I would rather have the child and know that it's got a second perhaps better chance at lie then abort it all together. That's just my opinion, she may have a different way of thinking.

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Why is having sex underage irresponsible?  

SEX IS THE ACT OF REPRODUCTION. CHILDREN CANNOT RAISE CHILDREN BECAUSE THEY DO NOT HAVE THE FINANCIAL STABILITY THE CHILD NEEDS. It's hard enough for an adult who doesn't have financial stability.

And adoption is irresponsible, well that might be the wrong word, but it's stupid because you could simply have an abortion and no one would get hurt.

Having unprotected sex while underage is irresponsible. Putting the child up for adoption is not. You're basically saying the girl should sweep this little mistake under the rug so she wont get hurt. Have you not considered the fact that the child may have a better {life} with a different family who can take care of the child?  

Of course the child may have a horrible life. That's the chance everybody who has a child takes. Shit happens. There are plenty of people who've been adopted who live perfectly normal, happy lives. It's not like we're in London and the child is going to become a chimney sweeper.

Never mind the fact that abortions are scaring for the mother and anyone else involved.    

Giving it up for adoption, the mother will hurt, the baby will most likely hurt too, and you are taking a home away from an already born kid.

Yeah? Well you're taking the life away from a human being who should be allowed the chance to live.

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Post edited at 5:20 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 by YellowDuckie

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SEX IS THE ACT OF REPRODUCTION. CHILDREN CANNOT RAISE CHILDREN BECAUSE THEY DO NOT HAVE THE FINANCIAL STABILITY THE CHILD NEEDS. It's hard enough for an adult who doesn't have financial stability.

And adoption is irresponsible, well that might be the wrong word, but it's stupid because you could simply have an abortion and no one would get hurt.

Having unprotected sex while underage is irresponsible. Putting the child up for adoption is not. You're basically saying the girl should sweep this little mistake under the rug so she wont get hurt. Have you not considered the fact that the child may have a better {life} with a different family who can take care of the child?  

Of course the child may have a horrible life. That's the chance everybody who has a child takes. Shit happens. There are plenty of people who've been adopted who live perfectly normal, happy lives. It's not like we're in London and the child is going to become a chimney sweeper.

Never mind the fact that abortions are scaring for the mother and anyone else involved.    

Giving it up for adoption, the mother will hurt, the baby will most likely hurt too, and you are taking a home away from an already born kid.

Yeah? Well you're taking the life away from a human being who should be allowed the chance to live.

Not everyone has sex to have kids.

"Having unprotected sex while underage is irresponsible" Having unprotected sex when you don't want kids is irresponsible no matter the age.

"You're basically saying the girl should sweep this little mistake under the rug so she wont get hurt. Have you not considered the fact that the child may have a better {life} with a different family who can take care of the child?"
If you think that's what I'm saying, you need to read it again.
Yeah it might have a better life, just like it might have a shitty life.

But it's still stupid, because you're still taking home away from an already born baby.

Adoption is a great thing. But if you have the chance to have an abortion, I think you should do that.

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"Having unprotected sex while underage is irresponsible" Having unprotected sex when you don't want kids is irresponsible no matter the age.  

"You're basically saying the girl should sweep this little mistake under the rug so she wont get hurt. Have you not considered the fact that the child may have a better {life} with a different family who can take care of the child?"  
If you think that's what I'm saying, you need to read it again.  
Yeah it might have a better life, just like it might have a shitty life.  

But it's still stupid, because you're still taking home away from an already born baby.  

Adoption is a great thing. But if you have the chance to have an abortion, I think you should do that.

Post edited at 5:35 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 by miimii

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"You're still taking a home away from an already born baby."

STFU.

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Honestly, You don't know what the best thing to do is, You have your opinions and thats all well and good but this is my body my life my child so i don't need them and i didn't ask for them..

No, you didn't ask for them, but it's a given that when you're on an advice site people are going to share their opinions. You're going to have to live with it.

And yes, I do know what the best thing to do is, for me which I stated, in case you failed to notice. I also said that it is your situation and that it's you who needs to evaluate what needs to be done.

If you're going to get a hair up your ass, do it to the right people.

 You as well as all the other high and mighty people who are passing judgements trying to "belittle" me and trying to put me down for MY decision.  

That's right, it was your decision to have sex and opt for an abortion. I'm not saying your decision to have an abortion was poor but when you decided to sleep with this guy it was. If you can't raise a child, don't have unprotected or poorly protected sex.

COMMON SENSE ALERT!

The whole thing was a mistake... I don't want a child by this man, I cannot afford this baby and If i have the baby i would not give it up for adoption which would subject it to a life less than what it deserves.  

This is interesting. Less then what it deserves? So it doesn't deserve a life because of your poor decisions? Now, I'm not normally anti-abortion, but this is ridicules. You don't want this child to have a life because you think it might not have the quality you think it deserves? Of course it's not going to be eating off of gold plates. Just like nobody else does. But it will have a chance to make a life for itself. The system gives children a free education, that's chance enough.  

It's not my life. No. But it is that child's.

Its not your life, I didn't ASK anyone were they PRO-CHOICE or PRO-LIFE and if you don't have any helpful advice regarding my situation and MY DECISION, not simply trying to sway it cause its already made, then don't reply cause you don't know what you would do in my situation, and you don't know what you would do if it happened to you unless it has happened and it i doubt it did cause you guys would be a lot more sympathetic if you were in a situation like mine, whether you are anti-abortion or pro-abortion.

Again, whether you ask for opinions or not, they'll be given. The people here are trying to show you better options (Not all, but some.) and you have your head so far up your god damn ass that you aren't willing to take a second look at your situation and ask yourself if there is something better out there.

 Im an educated young lady with a good heart and i really don't need your judgments and opinions and down talking when its not even coming from a caring place.

You may have a good heart but your head is so far up your ass at the moment I can hardly see it. I'll give you respect for going through such a hard time, but I will not allow myself to be insulted because I defended you and shared my opinions.

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Ok, you can sit here and argue with me over my own life, like an idiot I guess, but still Its my decision. And all that about my head being up my ass-- i think its the other way around-- you're so high and mighty and such a saint that you know what is best for everyone [whom you dont even know] Now I only quoted you cause you were the last person who replied and was still trying to get me to change my opinion, but i did STATE "YOU AS WELL AS ALL THE OTHERS..." So it wasnt directed only at you. I refuse to even sit here and state my reasons and my beliefs and my personal feelings about MY BODY and MY ABORTION so I'll just say, If someone asks for help in real life, would you JUDGE THEM and try to make them feel bad about somethin they are obviously already having a tough time dealing with? Or would you give them a helpful hand and a shoulder to cry on? If its not the latter, then I suggest you work on that. I've made my mistakes sure but im young and i know ill make mistakes in the future, Im not a saint and never will be one.. and you people refuse to believe that everyone is not perfect for some reason. Shit happens in life and you have to deal with it, personally, and thats what im doing. If you have a problem with it.. after all this.. Then I personally think you have enough problems to deal with.

If anything, I think it's you who needs to get help.

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Go ahead and kill your child. People tried giving you other, better options but because you're such a heartless bitch you're going to ignore them anyways and slaughter your unborn child because you don't want give it a better life by putting it up for adoption. I have no sympathy for you.

If anything, I think it's you who needs to get help.

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THERE WE GO, the REAL truth.. Miss "im not anti-abortion" thats how you really feel? Well guess what I dont care about your opinions the only opinion that matters to me is God's and he is a forgiving god and as long as he doesnt turn his back on me, then I dont care what people like you say. I find it hard to believe that you're calling me a heartless killer but you find yourself to be so angelic? Btw im not asking for sympathy and its sad that this topic turned out this way because of judgemental people like you, and if you believe that your way of thinking isnt polluted then u are in denial. Just cause im not changing my decision based on what strangers are telling me doesnt make me a 'HEARTLESS BITCH' dont you think i fucking thought this through before i made my decision.. Dont you think i think about this all day, every day, and cry about it at night? Dont you think im going through pain right now? Its not like im doing this just because i got pregnant and i dont want the baby If i could keep it i would. All i can do is pray for you, i guess at the same time i pray for myself and my baby.. Cause i truly think you have some personal issues to deal with but remember someone loves you. If you keep shutting people down and out dont you know you will run some of the most beautiful, inspiring people away from your life? But hey, what do i know right? Im just a cold hearted murderer

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The guy should be there. It's a big thing. After...please don't sleep with him again. You know he won't be there, and is an ass. No worth sleeping with again.

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Returning to the actual question.
lol.
:)

well... I've been following this,
and I think you both have vaild points.

As it is "Anonymous's" life,
I would much rather see the poor child have a chance at a good life. Who knows? Maybe the child could be a GORGEOUS girl or boy, who can change the world.
But then again, it could turn out to be a criminal.
we never know,
but why would we want to assume?

Btw, the child will have NO recollection of their birth mother. the child is too young.
My neighbor was adopted, and he's sweet, funny, and enjoy's his life.

But Anonymous, you're right.
This is YOUR life, and YOUR decision.
We just want u to know how vital this is, cuz once you abort the baby, it's gone...
and you'll never be the same...

My stance on abortion:
Last resort. For example, a girl from a culture where if she had sex before marriage, she was to be stoned, was raped, and got pregnant. So her choices: Abort the baby, or get stoned.

Hence, the availablity of abortion.

well, this has gotten WAYYY off topic...
and if you don't mind me asking...
just how old are you???
I don't think anyone ever got around to confirming that....

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I hope to hell that I'll never have to see your face again...

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Your reasoning is so fucking messed up.

"You're still taking a home away from an already born baby."

STFU.

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And thinking that it's any woman's job to be a brood mare for the country is sound reasoning?  

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Holly.
Mama to Hunter Kai

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Quote: from YellowDuckie at 5:36 pm on Aug. 18, 2008

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Your reasoning is so fucking messed up.  

 "You're still taking a home away from an already born baby."  

 STFU.

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And thinking that it's any woman's job to be a brood mare for the country is sound reasoning?

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I supposed what YellowDuckie's thought is:

Take responsibility for your actions.

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I hope to hell that I'll never have to see your face again...